But, why?

I have a problem. If someone assigns me a task, I need to understand why it needs to be done. I am unable to just take orders and say yes, it will be done. I must first present my opinions on the matter and let my voice be heard.

I know this is a problem because the boy is the exact same way. He must understand the logic behind every rule. It goes way behind the innocent "whys" to everything in the world. If you can explain it to him in a way that he understands, he is 100% behind it. If not, well, forget it. It is frustrating, but once I understood this, it became very easy to manage.

The girl, however, is not this way. She doesn't care what you have to say. If she doesn't want to do it, she won't. And no amount of logic will sway her.